Shay Stone: Random Thoughts Women Have Before Sex (Warning Mature Readers Only!)

Today, as I was screwing around online I saw an article that was something like 11 Things Men Think about When They See a Women Naked. Now, I'm not a guy, but I have to think that if I was and there was a naked woman in front of me, the most prevalent thing running through my mind would be, Cool, a naked chick that wants to have sex with me. Sure a guy may think to suck in his gut, stick out his chest, and flex a little but mainly he is thinking, Haha... boobs... and I get to touch them.

See, I don't believe women spend as much time pondering what men think when they see us naked as these articles suggest. No, when we get (or are about to get) horizontal with a man I believe we spend way more time in our own heads. So I have put together some random thoughts that tend to run through our minds and get in the way when we are having (or are about to have) sex.

(*Note: These are in no particular order and can vary depending on the stage of the relationship.)

Thought #1: "I am way too fat to have sex today."

Yes, men. I realize it may sound crazy, but even though we may look like we weigh the same to you from day to day, we really do have fat days and skinny days. Maybe it's water retention from hormones or maybe it's a guilty conscience from the one bite of cake that turned into us finishing off half of the ass end of our niece's My Little Pony leftover birthday cake, but fat/skinny days are not just in our head. The good news is we still have sex on our fat days, but we're more likely to feel like sex goddesses and curl your toes on our skinny days;)

Thought #2: Body disclosures

My God, I hope he doesn't have anything freaky that he forgot to disclose and I have to act like I've seen it before or it's perfectly normal. (Usually reserved for the 1st sexual experience...or for some people, the first sober sexual experience or sexual experience with the lights on);

Thought #3: I'm not digging that.

What is he doing? How can I make him stop doing that without spending the next 6 months reassuring him that he isn't a bad lover, I just didn't like that.

Thought #4: Is he a freak?

Please don't let him be into anything really freaky...(i.e. don't let me walk in and find him wearing my lingerie and heels, learn he is into farm animals [doing or acting like one] or call me "Mommy." Ewwwwww - btw, that was Ewwwww as in gross, not the sheep.

Thought # 5: Chores

Man, are those cobwebs on the ceiling? I just dusted!"

Thought #6: Insecurities

Did you see his ex? There is no WAY I am getting naked knowing he dated a girl that looked like that. Yes, she may be completely psychotic and I may be smarter and have a better personality, but you don't f#%k personality! (New relationship pre-sex)

Thought #7: Grooming

"Seriously? What's with the double standard? I need a freakin' machete' down here!"

Thought #8: Are we done yet?

Is he close? I hope he is close. I'm chaffing here!

Thought #9: Expressions

Does he know he is making that face? I wonder if he knows he is making that face?

Thought #10: Timing
He wants to have sex now? Vampire Diaries is on in 5 minutes. ( Vampire Diaries can be swapped with any of the following: Dancing with the Stars, American Idol, The Voice, etc)

Thought #11: "Excuse me"

Is it rude if I tap his head to get his attention?

Thought #12: Entertainment

Why do all men do that dance? Ladies, you know the one (and men so do you). Your man stands naked with his hands on his head, legs apart, and thrusts his hips back and forth making his "wingman" fly back and forth wildly.)

Thought #13: That's it?

So I guess we're done with foreplay?

Thought #14: Wardrobe
Really? He got completely naked but couldn't take the extra 2 seconds to take off the black socks? I wonder if I can take them off with my toes?

Thought #15: Kids (if you have them)

Did I lock the door? Did he lock the door? The kids are going to walk in? Did he lock the door? Did I lock the door? I know I didn't lock the door? I bet he didn't lock the door. I bet the door's not locked...

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